How Artists Can Remain Emotionally Free Through Criticism, Others & Theirs

Picasso said, Painting is a lie that tells the truth.
With a new book out From Jesus to Heaven with Love: A Parable Pilgrimage and my experiments with my painting, I certainly have had to look at lies and truth a lot lately.

For example, how much truth comes packaged as cruel-sounding criticism when I look at mostly negative reviews of my latest painting? How much is Newton’s Law of Physics? I can tell you, I sure did appreciate the man who bravely said he liked the painting despite all the other criticism. Of course, when I put myself out there in the world of the Internet with my work, I realize I open myself up to all sorts of things. Still, I have to deal with what comes up, so I avoid getting distracted and work on achieving my painting and writing visions.
Here’s how I do that–
1,  My goal in relationships is to lead with love. So, when people I have relationships with and strangers pick at me in a variety of ways, I work at going to my place of peace, where the sounds they make into words cannot make me feel bad. Still, I listen to the content to see if there is value there, learning there, new ways to be there. If I find any, I win big time. if not, I look at the relationship. Sometimes a relationship, like an old dress, needs to be retired with a polite, Thank you for all that was…I wish you well!
2.  Sometimes the lessons get complicated, however, and more discovery needs to be made. When I feel brave enough to take responsibility, I ask How did I create this response from this person? Until I can sort out a hurtful situation, I cannot move forward without dragging baggage from it. Until I can see my part, I cannot let it go. An example, selling jewelry at an outdoor fair, a customer gave me $70 for a $54 purchase, then quickly said she would be back in just a minute after she visited the tent next to ours. I set her $70 down with her $16 change under the two boxes I put her purchases in. In a New York second, she flashed by my table and snatched all of the money and disappeared into the crowd. I was out two pieces of jewelry and $16 of purchases others had made. She walked off with $86 and jewelry worth $54. So, how did I help her cheat me out of $70? I will next time hold all purchase money in my hand until the transaction is completed, even if a purchaser decides to visit another tent before completing it. My mistake was laying the purchase money and the change down in the same area with the boxed jewelry. Can I release this now? Yes, I can. Can I move on? Yes, I can. Do I have a niggling bit of hope, since my company name and address is on both boxes, that she will realize what she did was wrong and mail me back the $70? I kind of do.
3. Did I really let go of beating myself up about the situation? After a while.
4.  Now, for the love part. Can I look at this situation with love? I see how I created it and it is what it is. When I do this, I immediately feel better. I’m doing it!
5. It takes courage to accept my own responsibility when something ugly happens and get myself to a place of peace with it. That’s where the love comes in. I can love the lesson and love myself for being at peace with it.
Freedom I find comes from taking charge of my own actions and accepting the responsibility for my part in every situation, so I don’t put myself right back there where I do not want to be! 
This was good for me to write and see and I hope you found it helpful. Have comments? Do please share them.

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  1. Thanks you for taking the time to read the post and for your kind words. Have a wonderful week and may your blessings be~! Barbara Garro If you care to see more posts, please visit and